My approach

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

Carl Jung

My work is guided by my desire to restore flow of love and alleviate suffering. To help you turn what you regard to be shitty about your life into fertile ground.

I am a mirror for you to safely reflect on your experience, work through your pain and to uncover what the wisest part of you already knows.

I support you developing self-compassion through understanding yourself better.
We work together to get you more comfortable in your own skin and free of limiting patterns of self-sabotage and inner conflict.

We do this by gently exploring unconscious beliefs, suppressed emotions and your relationship with your family system.

This journey of healing and metabolising childhood and intergenerational trauma works most effectively using the implicit memory of the body. Talking therapy satisfies the mental aspects of the integration journey. Somatic processing significantly supports clearing the emotional congestion.

Our younger selves need to be approached with love and absolute acceptance. When we work together, all aspects of you are welcome. When we have a core belief from childhood that is something like “I am bad”, we create personalities that prevent other people from seeing what a mess we think we are inside.
We will befriend the parts of you that are causing you discomfort and create fresh perspectives about you and your place in the world.

I have worked in personal growth and healthcare for over 2 decades. My work is a blend of everything I have picked up along the way, personal and professional.

The main tools I use are Compassionate Inquiry, systemic coaching, constellations and emotional clearing. I also incorporate parts work, inner child work, shadow integration, somatic awareness, NLP, hypnotherapeutic and trance work.

I offer a free 30-minute chat to see if we’re a good fit.

Goals of my work

  • Deep acceptance of yourself exactly as you are and becoming your own best friend
  • Better relationships with people, life, the world
  • Alignment with your gift to the world
  • Becoming more playful and less self-judging
  • Increased movement towards potential and possibility
  • Freedom from limiting beliefs and childhood patterns
  • Relief from the load you have been carrying around all your life
  • Tuning in to your true, divine self
  • Greater ability to choose and experience the emotions you experience
  • Greater comfort with uncertainty and vulnerability
  • Connection to inner child

My part of the deal

  • I serve you with absolute presence, love, and compassion.
  • I have your back with strength and gentleness.
  • I walk alongside you with total acceptance and an appropriate dash of humour.
  • I walk the path. I am consistently working on myself and my stuff.

Your part of the deal

  • You show up for yourself. You do the work. You give yourself the compassion and trust to feel everything fully.
  • You take full responsibility for your life experience.
  • You integrate what we unravel in our sessions into your life with homework that we come up with together. This is the most expedient way of fostering change.

Integration is not an easy path. It involves challenging long held beliefs and identities. It is the best thing you will ever do for yourself.



Trainings and credentials

Latest: Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry, practitioner / 2022

My story

For a long time I believed the world was a dangerous place.

My philosophy

“Sweet are the uses of adversity, Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous, Wears yet a precious jewel in his head.” / William Shakespeare


“Kaj is an earth angel with a trickster uprising! You’re in good hands in every sense.”

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